Lesson #2

Preparing For France is Like
Getting a Divorce.

Oh, wait. I did get a divorce. (final April 2, 2024 - thank you very much.)

But still... even taking that nasty fact out of the equation, the amount of sifting, sorting, and tossing is a practice in letting go unlike anything else.

Reader, even as much as you know that "It's just stuff.", you've attached so much meaning to it, the thought of tossing any of it rips your heart out.

You Know --"The Stuff"

The box of photo albums you've had in your attic for years, that came from your parent's attic and the contents of which came from their parent's.

The old salt & pepper shakers you found at that fun mercado on your trip to Mexico. They're hideous. But what a great vacation!

The books. you know you'll read one day. The clothes you know you'll wear again one day...

Lesson #2

It's just stuff from a time - not the time itself.

Even if I weren't moving 5000 miles away, I'm realizing that the meaning I've given to "things" holds me back from growing into the woman I want to be. (Yes, even at 66 years-old.)

If you want to unlearn the lessons life has given you - parents, culture, friends, a painful experience... the first lesson to unlearn is that "Stuff matters."

There's a difference between the Marie Kondo joy you get from something and grasping to hold on to the joy of a time gone by or a you who used to be.

Be Like the Swedes.

I'm certainly not saying you dump all your trophies, family photos and heirlooms. Just be aware of what they are, not what they represent. Are they a boost or an anchor on your journey to your best future self and best, next chapter?

While seemingly a bit morbid in our culture, in Sweden there's a cultural concept of this process I'm going through, but not because of a 5,000 mile move.

In Sweden you work on eliminating unnecessary items from your home, so loved ones won't be burdened with the task after you pass. Swedish Death Cleaning - I told you it was a bit morbid for our senses. Another lesson to unlearn, I think.

xo

Lynnelle "French Life Cleaning" Wilson
Mentor & Chief Cheerleader & Retirement Reinventionist

PS - Yesterday I gave a peak into the upcoming Don't Retire! ReWIRE. The registration page is almost ready to launch - you'll get the link this weekend. Until then, be sure and mark your calendar. You will want to be there! May 22, 23, & 24. ​

PSS - Thank you for being here. ❤️