It’s Time to Toughen the Talk.

Reader, over the last few weeks, we’ve covered why you might feel stuck after retiring (or after a divorce, the death of a loved one, or any other lifequake event).

We’ve also talked about the core truth: Mystical moments of clarity that magically illuminate your path forward aren't waiting for you.

Here’s the next truth bomb:

Your happiness is absolutely, 100% your responsibility.

You don’t get to use your husband, your aging parents, your kids or grandkids, your health, or your bank account as an excuse for staying stuck. And I know this will piss off a few of you, but here it is: No one or nothing is in charge, but you.

If you want change, you have to want it badly enough to do the hard, scary, and sometimes unpopular work of creating it.

Glimmers That Keep You Moving

In discomfort, there will be glimmers — small flashes of progress, joy, or clarity that connect you to the world around you and remind you that you’re on the right path.

Deb Dana coined the term "Glimmers" in 2018. Here, she describes glimmers and introduces her recently published "Glimmers Journal".

Your challenge? Notice the glimmers. They ground you and are proof you are on the right track. Here are a few practices to support you.

1. The "Call Yourself Out" Reflection Exercise

Take out a journal and ask yourself:

• Where in my life am I waiting for someone or something else to change before I allow myself to move forward?
• What’s the real reason I’m hesitating? Is it fear of failure, fear of judgment, or fear of making the wrong choice?
• What’s one small step I can take today that is completely within my control?

Write your answers down. Be brutally honest. Awareness is the first step in reclaiming your agency.

Read the rest of the post here on Substack.

Final Thought: No One Is Coming to Save You

No mentor, no perfect adventure, nor any magical moment will give you "the answer". I am here to help, but you are in control.

And that’s good news.

Glimmer On, Reader!

With Gratitude,

Lynnelle

PS - Several of you told me you weren't available for today's Wayfinder call and have asked for more calls to be scheduled. Later this week you'll get an email listing the call dates and a link to register.

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