Hi again, Reader.

It's been a minute since you've seen a regular note from me in your inbox. My excuse is that I've been head-down running the first Wayfinding beta program (...it's been amazing!!) and keeping up with all the new folks finding me on YouTube (...also amazing!!).

Since I'm a one-woman show, sometimes something's gotta give. It's a big learning curve, but I'm back and aiming for more consistency moving forward.

That Voice in Your Head? It Isn't You.

Yes, I know you've noticed that critical voice that shows up when you're thinking about doing something different.

• "Who do you think you are?"
• "It's too late to start something new."
• "You should be grateful for what you have and not always want more."

If You Know, Why Is It Still
Messing With You?

If you're familiar with that voice - why does it continue to keep you stuck, small, and afraid?

Perhaps because you continue to confuse that voice with YOU.

It is not you. It is not me, so I've given it a name to distinguish it.

My voice is BIFF: the

Bitch Inherited from Fear.

BIFF is the culmination of all the crap we've absorbed since childhood – from family scripts, cultural conditioning, that teacher who said you weren't creative, that boss who decided you weren't leadership material...

BIFF isn't ALWAYS wrong and shows up as a "protection system," trying to keep you safe. But, in keeping you safe from EVERYTHING, it also keeps you small and predictable. You don't need that kind of "protection" anymore.

BIFF is especially loud during big transitions

...like when you're retiring, leaving a long relationship, or considering a major life change (hello, moving to France!). That's because BIFF freaks out when you start to change. Change means uncertainty, and uncertainty registers as danger to your primitive brain.

The bigger the life transition, the more BIFF loses its sh*t.

Here's How to Spot BIFF

• It deals in absolutes: "You'll never..." "You always..." "No one will..."
• It uses shame as a weapon: "What were you thinking?" "You're too old/inexperienced..."
• It's obsessed with others' approval: "What will people think?"

Your authentic voice feels different. It feels expansive, curious, maybe a little nervous (because growth is scary), but not shame-y or mean.

BIFF is why, despite your best intentions, despite all your journaling and vision boarding and trying to figure yourself out, you keep finding yourself stuck in the same old patterns.

But once you can spot BIFF trying to drive, you can start to loosen its grip.

​Read the full article here to get practical steps to recognize when it's holding you back - and learn about the sneaky ways BIFF operates below your conscious awareness.

Until next time, remember: that critical voice in your head? It isn't you. It never was.

With fire and heart,

Lynnelle

P.S. Ready to tell BIFF to "shut the front door" and reclaim your authentic voice? The next -and last- Wayfinding beta program starts June 12!

In this 6-week journey, we'll identify the stories holding you back (hello, BIFF), start to release their hold, and start paving a way for your next chapter – one that's aligned with what YOU want. Interested? Go here for more info.