Why You Stay Stuck & Some Tough Love


Hey [First Name],

Does this sound familiar?

You know you want more in life than a new hobby, but no matter what you do, you just can't get out of your own way. You’re stuck - but you're not alone.

This week, let's dive into WHY you stay stuck (why I stayed stuck) and how to finally move forward (what I learned that helped me finally be able to move forward).

There's a lot to unpack, but here are the 3 biggest reasons WHY:

  1. 🔥 You want certainty and wait for clarity before acting—Clarity only comes from experience which comes from action. And certainty? ... LOL. Are you ever "certain"? Don't wait - or you'll likely stay stuck.
  2. 🔥 You’ve tied your identity to your life roles, not your life values—You are more than the roles you've played — who you are was - and continues to be shaped by what (and who) you value in life. When was the last time you thought about that?
  3. 🔥 You avoid discomfort—but we both know that growth always comes with a little chaos (aka: discomfort). By avoiding discomfort you'll be avoiding your own growth. (newsflash: that includes the discomfort that comes with conflict...)

You can read the full article here: ON SUBSTACK

Did you miss me?

If you missed last week's post, it was my mea culpa for going dark for the last 10 months, or so. I have good reasons and if you're interested in the story, you can find it here.

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What will you do this week?

I want to hear from you! Hit reply and let me know—what’s one small step you can take today?

With gratitude,

Lynnelle

PS - All of this is intended to help other women in a similar place to where I was. Please check out the YouTube channel. Subscribe if it resonates with you. And please, give me your feedback to help me improve. ❤️

PSS - The sun finally came out for more than 10 minutes last week! Seasonal Affective Disorder is not someone's imagination. Dang. It's been a long, gray, dreary few months.

I am not the only one happy to see the sun! ☀️☀️☀️

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